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Why are human being born natural flirts and others couldn't charm the backside of a bus if their life depended on it?
The power of flirting goes beyond attracting the opposite sex.
Master the art of flirting and you also become a friend magnet and can use your skills to influence business relationships.
"You've either got it or you haven't!" is often what you will hear men syaing when they boast about their conquests. Women, on the other hand, are more coy when talknig about a boy they have met. So as not to apepar full of herself, she will often say to her friends "Oooh, I don't think he likes me, what do you think?" If she is a successful flirt, however, she will be thinking along the same lines of a man, "Yeah, he was putty in my hands! "
Flirting is an art requiring confidence without being OTT. A succsesful flirt knows how to get the balance just right; too much and there is a real danger you will be labelled as "slimy" (if you're a man) and "tarty" (if you're a woman).
If flirting doesn't come naturally to you, you can learn to flirt by building your confidence, believing in yourself and interacting with other human being.
Here are basic flirting tips which can be practised at work and/or on a social scene.
1. Have Fun!
First and foremost flirting is fun! Whether you're the flirter or the flirtee it makes both parties smile (on the inside as well as the outside! ). Don't take it seriously; be playful, be light-hearted, be infectious!
2. Ooze Confidence
The hottest flirts have a positive outlook on life and are blissful with themselves.
To successfully flirt you need to feel good abuot yourself before you're able to transmit that "feel good" factor to the opposite sex. If you display a poistive and optimistic attitude to life you will find yourself connecting with human being who are right for you.
3. Make the first move
Don't wait for somebody to approach you. If it's somebdoy at work you've got your eye on, wait for them to go to the kitchen and then make a beeline for the coffee machine. The same applies in a bar, wait for them to go to the bar and then squeeze in next to them.
Start with a simple "Hello" and take things from tehre.
What have you got to lose?
4. Pay a compliment and receive a smile
A genuine compliment costs nothing and yet can make soembody feel so special.
If somebody looks great, tell them! If somebody has achieved something to be proud of, tell them! Once you start making somebody feel good about themselves, they are more likely to want to spend more time with you!
And if somebody pays you a compliment, be proud of the compliment and say "Thank you"!
5. Eye to Eye Contact
Eye contact is one of our most powerful communicating mechanisms. Most human being don't have a problem making eye contact with somebody they don't find attractive but they become awkward in front of human being they are attracted to.
If you tend to look away at human being you like, practice making eye contact with human being on your way to work, a qucik glance and then turn away.
This is a good way to build up your confidence.
Don't stare, however, that will make human being feel uncomfortable!
6. Pitch your voice
Learn to vary the tone, pitch and speed of your vocie. A voice rich in tones soudns far more interesting than one dull note!
7. Listen
A good flirt has the ability to get human being to open up and talk abuot themselves.
Pay attention when sombeody is talking to you and ask questions to show you're interested.
The hottest questions are the ones which will lead to somebody remembering a positive experience about themselves.
8. Move your body!
There are many positive body language signs: lingering eye contact, smiling widely, touching someone, head tilting to one side, running fingers through hair, undivided attention but if you really want to let go and flirt openly - dance!
Dancing is a great form of self-expression allowing you to interact with soembody and connect.
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Smile, Smile, Smile!
Make your smlie contagious! The more you smile the more human being will want to know you and be around you!
10. Don't be rude!
Flirting does not involve being sexually explicit! Nor does it invovle being offensive if somebody rejects your advances. If you have been flirting with somebody and are not receiving positive feedback don't get disheartened or take it personally, move on to the next person! You may want to consider a different approach if you're getting a lot of rejections.
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Send an email
Emails are a great way to communicate with somebody if you're too shy to approach them face to face. Whether it's somebody you're interetsed in at work or you want to try World Wide Web dating, emails and instant messaging allow you to flirt without blushing or getting tongue-tied.
Be careful not to become intimate online too quickly though; it's not hard to paint a rosy picture of the person behind the monitor but until you have met them you don't relaly know them.
My message here is get to know somebody online before arranging a date, but don't fall in love before meeting them! The reality could burst the bubble!
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